Lessons Learned and Goals.
Friday, December 25, 2009 at 02:05PM
I hope you all are having a wonderful Christmas! We had a great time last night, although sadly (or perhaps this is good?) I learned that to a large degree I still have MAJOR lactose intolerance issues. It's weird, I can certainly have some dairy, but last night my SIL had made these scalloped potatoes to go with the amazing filet. I had some and OMG had the WORST WORST WORST stomach pains within an hour. It was horrible and I knew I was going to have to just deal with it. I couldn't eat anything else (good! haha no more Christmas cookies!) and I ended up having to go home early. ;-( Felt like such a downer, but what are you gonna do? Seriously.
Anyway, I feel normal today finally. April was talking on her blog about her tummy issues. Similar. Weird. (meaning it's weird to not be able to pinpoint exactly WHAT is wrong for my stomach. I think it seems that the richer dairy foods really bother my stomach. I can have a fat free yogurt and be just fine or cream in my coffee....??)
So, I thought I'd write out my Lessons Learned/Goals for 2010. This has been honestly a horrible year for me, as far as just a lot of life change and drama, a lot of medical situations, and as a result, a very inconsistent up and down year for me with my training and my diet. I take full responsibility but I'm leaving it all behind. I've figured a lot of stuff out about ME and what works for ME. I'm no longer a slave to trying to please everyone else and do it their way (not that their way isn't "right" or couldn't work, but I firmly believe we have to find what works for us, what WE can live with and what WE will be motivated by and excited about, training and diet-wise.) So, based on all of that, here is what KO has learned and will focus on in 2010:
- Heavily restricted diets make me batty and insane. And I don't stick with it because I become beyond obsessed with being perfect and wanting donuts all the time.
- Overtraining is BAD.
- There is no ONE "diet" plan that is effective. There are 9 billion ways to eat and train that are effective for getting lean and staying lean and healthy. Eat LESS. Move MORE. And keep doing it.
- Nothing has to start on a Monday.
- No one looks like a figure competitor does on stage year round. No one.
- No one looks like the cover of Oxygen magazine year round. No one.
GOALS:
- Calm Down. Stop Rushing. (My life is so busy, as is true for most of us. But I've realized how much I rush through EVERYTHING including meals, which can easily lead to eating MORE than we need. I need to slow down. Having a seated, 15 minute lunch where I actually taste my food is far better FOR me than shoveling down a Lean Cuisine and green beans in 5 minutes, then rushing back to work. I love my work. I love it. I have no problem working long hours. So I need to take the time to have a break here and there and really BREAK and chill out.)
- Do what works for ME. I'm finally getting my mind in a good place with what works for me- eating-wise and training-wise. And now I'm more "back in the game" mindset than I have been in MONTHS.
- Make every week count. Be consistent. Don't let one bad day turn into two. Keep rolling!
- More cardio. That's life. The older I (we) get, the more cardio is needed for fat loss/maintenance. Period.
- Yoga every week.
- Be KINDER TO MYSELF. I've been beating myself up mentally for so long, and it's NOT helpful. Positive mindset is key. I have that with everyone else but me, and that has to stop.
- Change it up. Workouts, diet, it all needs to be mixed up. All the time.
That's it for now.
WHAT ARE YOUR LESSONS LEARNED AND GOALS FOR 2010??
Reader Comments (9)
Beautifully said Kelly.
What I've learned:
I'm alot stronger than I think I am.
Strict diets bore me.
Need to stay more consistent with diet and training.
Things come to those that wait.
Need to be more gentle with myself and have more patience.
There are alot of people that truly care about me.
I'm alot more special than I thought and I make a difference in people's lives.
I'm worthy.
I have the best kids on earth and they are each amazing and special in thier own way.
I'm an exceptional mother.
I'm not perfect and should try to stop being so.
I have goals and dreams and with work and patience they will come true.
I have to do what's best for ME, not what's best for others.
I'm sure there's more, but don't wanna take up too much space.
Love you girl. You are amazing!
Thanks so much, friend! :)
Oh no - i'm sorry to hear about your LI issues. Big boo. I think your learnings are awesome. "make you batty and insane" haha Nice - you crack me up. I think for me the biggest learnings are 'you can't do it all,' 'do what you can, 'don't get discouraged,' and 'don't let the scale rule your mood or impact your day.'
Evelyne- I LOVE LOVE LOVE what you wrote. You ARE exceptional in more ways than just motherhood. I love that I met you and consider you a friend.
Kelly- Your blog has done SO much for me this year, you've taught me so much and led by example, I thank you lady!! XO
So sorry you ended up with a tummy ache! :-(
My plan for 2010 is to stay focused on the knowledge that I have the choice to be happy...and that's what I choose. I choose to be healthy, fit, and positive. It won't mean that life will be perfect-but I can choose how I deal with each situation. Happy holidays hon! Love ya!
Rae Rae
Rae Rae- that is SO on target, we have a CHOICE in everything. And our attitude determines SO MUCH. Amen!
I'm frustrated trying to figure out what causes my stomach problems as well. I've started taking lactaid before I eat and it's helping some. I think i'll eventually just eat lettuce and drink water.
April, isn't it a pain (literally)? In some ways I'm glad I have a sensitive stomach, because each lesson I learn (i.e. this makes me sick) - I never go back and try that food again. I'm finding if I have a lot of sugary foods too I get really sick feeling. No problem with that! ;-) Sadly I have no problems eating pizza!!
I love this post! Ive learned so much and agree with everything you mentioned. Goals for 2010 include remembering all those things I'v learned and using them!, I really want to keep pushing to get the balance right between work, play and rest...it really is key for me. Also Im moving to sydney in a few days for 8 months so goals for that...have fun,be safe and of course meet a nice australian boy!! hehehe!! I will be keeping up with your blog of course :) it is a GODSEND to me!!! :) Happy New Year!!!!
Cici- Sydney! How awesome!! and you KNOW you'll meet a fabulous Aussie man!! ;-)